You might need to calm down…
You’re a person who sets high standards for herself and likes things done in a particular way. Being organised and orderly helps you feel in control of your busy life when there are a lot of plates in the air. You’re a planner and a list-maker and believe there’s a right way to do things. The truth is, you’re not that comfortable with uncertainty - you prefer order and predictability. When you go on holidays, you probably plan your itinerary to the minute because ‘winging it’ is not something you’re entirely comfortable with (or maybe you choose relaxing, unscheduled holidays because it’s the only time you allow yourself to truly relax).
You probably display...
Meticulous attention to detail and only feel satisfied when you produce your best work, even if that means taking a bit (or a lot) more time. You pride yourself on doing a top quality job and like to feel that you are doing your best in every area of your life - at work, at home, and as a parent.
(By the way, you might not consider yourself to be a perfectionist because you look around your life and don’t see perfection, but it’s important to note that perfectionism is the standard you set for yourself in your mind, even if you don’t always achieve it in reality.)
Sometimes your high standards are impossible to uphold - not just for you but the people around you. When you fail to meet them, you can feel like you’re letting yourself and others down. Striving for excellence is a positive quality but when you measure your self-worth by your ability to do things perfectly, you create unnecessary stress and anxiety. Because you like things done in a particular way, you might have difficulty delegating because you can’t be sure anyone else will do the job to your standard. And the people around you are reluctant to help because nothing they do is ever quite good enough.
Some other downsides...
To this kind of perfectionism are that you might be prone to the ‘all or nothing’ thinking which tells you if you don’t do something perfectly, you might as well not do it at all. You probably also have difficulty taking risks or stretching yourself out of your comfort zone because you feel safest when you can guarantee an outcome.
But success is never guaranteed.
You don’t give yourself a chance to see what’s possible, to learn from mistakes and grow if you never put yourself out there and risk failing. Deep down, you are likely afraid of failure, judgement and criticism (even if the only one judging you is YOU).